Switching, to put it simply, is someone who has traits, desires, and kinks that fall on both sides of the BDSM exchange of power. This poses a unique set of needs and considerations that goes much deeper than simply researching Dominance and submission as separate topics. It is the constant shift and balance that brings [...]
5 Ways for Submissives to Bring their Best to a Dynamic
I distinctly remember typing "how to be a good submissive" into my google search bar and was frustrated at the vague or sexually based responses I kept stumbling upon. I felt like there was some elusive secret or checklist that if I kept reading I would eventually find and viewed submission as one size fits all. Ive known from the beginning I wanted to bring y'all real and tangible advice to help you feel like you are improving your submission, but without perpetuating the false beliefs I once held of one specific set of rules to be considered "good" within this lifestyle. Your submission is unique to you and that's what makes it such a beautiful and intimate gift to share with the right Dominant.
As much as I would love to write a post about how to avoid sub drop, in my personal opinion, that's an unrealistic goal for submissives and Dominants alike. With great highs come great lows and the goal of this blog is rather to explain what is is, why it happens and what we can do to work through it.
I thought I would continue our BDSM basics series by digging in a little deeper about what a submissive is and the different submissive roles within the BDSM community. Submissives choose to give up control to their Dominant within the BDSM dynamic. Submission is a gift, and one that should not be given lightly as [...]
Mental Health Check Ins
We are switching gears today to some of my absolute favorite topics: mental health, self care and submission. This is the start of a new series I will be weaving into the blog that encourages you to make sure you're taking care of yourself, especially with the current state of our country. Between pandemics, staying [...]
Primal, in my opinion, is one of the more taboo and less talked about kinks within the BDSM community. I am not -by any stretch of the imagination-an expert in primal play but I am going to dive into what it is, how it is incorporated into the lifestyle and my personal experiences with a primal Dominant. This post may be a little long, so grab a cup of coffee (or tea if that's more your jam) and settle in.
The Secret Garden
I wrote this late at night for B after a conversation I couldn't get out of my head with some dearly loved submissive friends about how our Dominants help to grow and cultivate our subspaces. If you're not familiar with subspace, start with my post here and then come back and read my little late night, subspace fueled love note.
What is it? What causes it? Have I ever felt it? Subspace wasn't something I experienced prior to B, and I know some subs who haven't experienced it at all who are completely satisfied in their submissive journey. So if that's you- relax, take a deep breath, and don’t worry. Your ability to enter subspace does not define your dynamic or your submission and just because you haven't experienced it yet, doesn't mean you never will.