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BDSM Basics

Safe Words

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Safe Words

Whether you are familiar with BDSM or not, chances are you've heard of "safe words" in some sort of conversation, movie, blog, etc. And while this post's intention is to educate you on what a safe word is, most importantly I want to teach you when and how to use them the right way. Having a safe word is no better than having a car that doesn't start if you don't feel confident and comfortable using them when a situation or scene begins to shift to a place that makes you feel unsafe, begins to approach your hard limits or if you are just plain not into it anymore. And spoiler alert: Dominants, this blog is for you, too.

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Edge Play

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Edge Play

Having briefly mentioned edge play in my primal post, I figured it deserved a blog of it's very own. Edge play is a term used to encompass a variety of kinks and actives within the BDSM community that lay at the edge of what can be considered safe, sane and consensual. In these situations, we need to switch into a mindset of risk aware consensual kink, or RACK for short. I warned y'all how much I love a good acronym.

BDSM Basics

What is BDSM?

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What is BDSM?

Please consider the following as "Emily's Cheat Sheet to BDSM", rather that the need all, be all explanation. There are much more technical and in depth definitions all over the internet, but here is my stab at explaining the lifestyle and some of the terms I may throw around on my blog.