A journey into the world of BDSM and how to find your place in a lifestyle filled with consent, floggers and collars.
I thought I would continue our BDSM basics series by digging in a little deeper about what a submissive is and the different submissive roles within the BDSM community. Submissives choose to give up control to their Dominant within the BDSM dynamic. Submission is a gift, and one that should not be given lightly as [...]
I wrote this late at night for B after a conversation I couldn't get out of my head with some dearly loved submissive friends about how our Dominants help to grow and cultivate our subspaces. If you're not familiar with subspace, start with my post here and then come back and read my little late night, subspace fueled love note.
What is it? What causes it? Have I ever felt it? Subspace wasn't something I experienced prior to B, and I know some subs who haven't experienced it at all who are completely satisfied in their submissive journey. So if that's you- relax, take a deep breath, and don’t worry. Your ability to enter subspace does not define your dynamic or your submission and just because you haven't experienced it yet, doesn't mean you never will.
Please consider the following as "Emily's Cheat Sheet to BDSM", rather that the need all, be all explanation. There are much more technical and in depth definitions all over the internet, but here is my stab at explaining the lifestyle and some of the terms I may throw around on my blog.
Suddenly Submissive 