I thought I would continue our BDSM basics series by digging in a little deeper about what a submissive is and the different submissive roles within the BDSM community. Submissives choose to give up control to their Dominant within the BDSM dynamic. Submission is a gift, and one that should not be given lightly as [...]
B, L & I have recently started a "triad journal" of sorts. A place to check in, share our thoughts and write about our days in a way that's not always possible in normal daily, interactions. The idea was recommended to us by a lovely couple in the lifestyle and I am so excited to see how this intentional practice of communication grows our dynamic. Although these journals are generally private, my lovelies allowed me to share today’s entry with y'all. Theirs, however, I am keeping under lock and key but I will let you know the term "the kinky girl door next door" was thrown into the mix. New tagline, maybe?
I wrote this late at night for B after a conversation I couldn't get out of my head with some dearly loved submissive friends about how our Dominants help to grow and cultivate our subspaces. If you're not familiar with subspace, start with my post here and then come back and read my little late night, subspace fueled love note.
What is it? What causes it? Have I ever felt it? Subspace wasn't something I experienced prior to B, and I know some subs who haven't experienced it at all who are completely satisfied in their submissive journey. So if that's you- relax, take a deep breath, and don’t worry. Your ability to enter subspace does not define your dynamic or your submission and just because you haven't experienced it yet, doesn't mean you never will.