Primal

Primal

Primal, in my opinion, is one of the more taboo and less talked about kinks within the BDSM community. I am not -by any stretch of the imagination-an expert in primal play but I am going to dive into what it is, how it is incorporated into the lifestyle and my personal experiences with a primal Dominant. This post may be a little long, so grab a cup of coffee (or tea if that's more your jam) and settle in.

The Secret Garden

The Secret Garden

I wrote this late at night for B after a conversation I couldn't get out of my head with some dearly loved submissive friends about how our Dominants help to grow and cultivate our subspaces. If you're not familiar with subspace, start with my post here and then come back and read my little late night, subspace fueled love note.

Subspace

Subspace

What is it? What causes it? Have I ever felt it? Subspace wasn't something I experienced prior to B, and I know some subs who haven't experienced it at all who are completely satisfied in their submissive journey. So if that's you- relax, take a deep breath, and don’t worry. Your ability to enter subspace does not define your dynamic or your submission and just because you haven't experienced it yet, doesn't mean you never will.

The One’s I Call Mine

The One’s I Call Mine

I can't introduce y'all to my submissive journey without first introducing the one's who are sitting front seat with me. Enter, B & L. Yes. B and L. I am currently in a polyamorous closed triad with both a man and a woman. If you're not familiar with poly, skip to this post here and then come back so those terms don't sound quite as greek. In a nut shell, this means that the three of us have all chosen to be in a closed, non-monogamous relationship with each other. I am in a romantic and intimate relationship with them both, and they with each other and with me. Phew. Now that we got that out of the way....

What is BDSM?

What is BDSM?

Please consider the following as "Emily's Cheat Sheet to BDSM", rather that the need all, be all explanation. There are much more technical and in depth definitions all over the internet, but here is my stab at explaining the lifestyle and some of the terms I may throw around on my blog.