Having briefly mentioned edge play in my primal post, I figured it deserved a blog of it's very own. Edge play is a term used to encompass a variety of kinks and actives within the BDSM community that lay at the edge of what can be considered safe, sane and consensual. In these situations, we need to switch into a mindset of risk aware consensual kink, or RACK for short. I warned y'all how much I love a good acronym.
Primal, in my opinion, is one of the more taboo and less talked about kinks within the BDSM community. I am not -by any stretch of the imagination-an expert in primal play but I am going to dive into what it is, how it is incorporated into the lifestyle and my personal experiences with a primal Dominant. This post may be a little long, so grab a cup of coffee (or tea if that's more your jam) and settle in.
B, L & I have recently started a "triad journal" of sorts. A place to check in, share our thoughts and write about our days in a way that's not always possible in normal daily, interactions. The idea was recommended to us by a lovely couple in the lifestyle and I am so excited to see how this intentional practice of communication grows our dynamic. Although these journals are generally private, my lovelies allowed me to share today’s entry with y'all. Theirs, however, I am keeping under lock and key but I will let you know the term "the kinky girl door next door" was thrown into the mix. New tagline, maybe?
I wrote this late at night for B after a conversation I couldn't get out of my head with some dearly loved submissive friends about how our Dominants help to grow and cultivate our subspaces. If you're not familiar with subspace, start with my post here and then come back and read my little late night, subspace fueled love note.
What is it? What causes it? Have I ever felt it? Subspace wasn't something I experienced prior to B, and I know some subs who haven't experienced it at all who are completely satisfied in their submissive journey. So if that's you- relax, take a deep breath, and don’t worry. Your ability to enter subspace does not define your dynamic or your submission and just because you haven't experienced it yet, doesn't mean you never will.
I can't introduce y'all to my submissive journey without first introducing the one's who are sitting front seat with me. Enter, B & L. Yes. B and L. I am currently in a polyamorous closed triad with both a man and a woman. If you're not familiar with poly, skip to this post here and then come back so those terms don't sound quite as greek. In a nut shell, this means that the three of us have all chosen to be in a closed, non-monogamous relationship with each other. I am in a romantic and intimate relationship with them both, and they with each other and with me. Phew. Now that we got that out of the way....